The article tells parents how to explain to children where they come from.
Sooner or later, parents will hear the question of how children are born. And it’s better to prepare for such a conversation in advance.The child was found in cabbage
At what age should I tell where the children come from?
From the age of three, babies begin to realize their gender identity - boys attribute themselves to boys, and girls to girls. At this age, boys already associate themselves with dad or with a close man from their environment, and girls associate themselves with mom, or with an authoritative woman from their environment.
Most often, babies from three to seven years old themselves begin to ask questions about the birth of children, especially if another child is expected to appear in the family. By this age, parents should already be prepared for a special conversation.
If the child has reached the age of seven, but no questions have been asked, then parents should take care to independently bring the child to this conversation unobtrusively. The fact is that the baby will still learn about this information, most likely he already knows, but in a slightly distorted form, because I recognized her from peers in the yard, either on the Internet, or in other, not entirely reliable places.
With older children, adolescents, the topic of child birth is also worth talking about, only in a completely different way.Children can learn from unreliable sources
How to tell the boy, the son, where the children come from?
Up to a certain age, there is no difference to which of the parents the boy asks the question, and to whom is the girl. The only important thing is that the earlier the baby asks the question about the birth of children, the easier it will be for adults to answer this question.
Kids three to five years old it will be vague enough to answer this question, one or two phrases will suffice. For example, that he emerged from his mother’s abdomen, in which he grew and developed under the protection of his mother, where he was warm and comfortable.
For the baby this answer will be quite enough, it is unlikely that he will ask additional questions.Child asks question
And here are the older children who have reached six to seven years oldmay well begin to ask clarifying questions. And here parents should take care to be ready to answer all questions of interest to the child.
IMPORTANT: Whatever question is received from the child, it is worth answering it calmly, confidently, without the slightest embarrassment. However, words and phrases should be selected available for a child of his age.
At this age, the child will begin to be interested in the question of how he nevertheless got into his mother’s tummy. You can already tell that when adults marry, they love each other, kiss, even sleep in bed together, and it is during this period that dad gives his mother a seed that grows into a child, and the mother carefully grows it in her tummy for some time.
Children of this age should be aware of the differences in the genitals. Parents should make sure that children know that not everyone can touch them, and this applies even to parents (if the child can already take a shower on their own).
In order to avoid adult sexual harassment, the child should also know that he can tell you that someone wanted to touch him.
In age eight to twelve years old children know very well how boys differ from girls. It is at this age that children should learn about sex as a physiological process.
At this age, it is not necessary to emotionally decorate stories about conception and birth, there is no need to talk about how you felt good at first during conception, and then very painful during childbirth. It is enough to simply explain what, how, where, using the words available to the child, but not too vulgar.
Also with a child of this age, you can raise the topic of gender relations - the relationship between boys and girls, talk about falling in love.
At the age of eight to twelve years, children can ask parents about the birth of children only by checking whether they will say it or not. Perhaps your child is trying to understand whether you are ready to talk with him on such topics.
Baby is pondering
IMPORTANT: Parents must openly and honestly answer questions posed by their children. So parents will help children understand that they can trust them, can openly talk on any topic.
With teens over twelve years old you should be very careful in conversations on intimate topics. Of course, there should no longer be any secrets here, but vice versa.
IMPORTANT: If before this age of the child, you have not had a conversation with him on an intimate topic, then most likely you will not decide to talk, because the teenager will not begin to ask, but will begin to try.
A teenager should know that sex is not only a pleasure, but also a serious danger. Early sex can lead to serious illness, unwanted pregnancy, or infertility.
IMPORTANT: Any conversation with a child on the topic of sex should not develop into moralizing, the conversation should be confidential, friendly.
The child should talk about possible types of sex and how to protect themselves.
Father should talk with teenage boy on intimate topics
IMPORTANT: It is at this age that a father or any other man whom he can trust should have a conversation with a male teenager.
How to tell the girl, daughter, where the children come from?
How to tell the girl, daughter where the children come from is described in detail in the section above. The difference only occurs at the age of ten - on this topic a girl is better to talk with her mother, older sister, or any other older woman from the girl’s inner circle.
In adolescence, the girl should explain the connection between the onset of menstruation and childbirth, about the dangers of early sex. A young girl should find out what types of sex exist and what types of contraception exist.Mom should lead conversations on intimate topics with a teenage girl
Where do the children in the mother’s stomach come from: how to explain to the child?
In conversations about the conception and birth of children, one should not invent stories that are too strange and far from reality. It’s better to tell the truth using simple words.
You can come up with fairy tales or stories, so to speak, based on real events. For example:
“There was a mother and a father. They loved each other very much, hugged, kissed and even slept in the same crib. And they wanted them to have a baby. And my mother began to grow a little boy in his stomach. And it was Vanya! At first he was very small and quietly and quietly sat in his mother’s tummy.Then Vanya grew up, became big, already occupied his whole tummy - and his tummy also became big, mom and dad stroking his tummy and Vanya, kissed him and talked to him. And then Vanyusha grew up completely and wanted to go to mom and dad from the stomach. there’s a special door and Vanya got out! Mom and dad were delighted, they took Vanya on the hands, mom began to feed him milk. And everyone else was very happy: grandmothers, grandfathers, a cat - everyone said: “Hello, Vanya!” And then "Vanya grew even more, learned to run, talk and eat porridge with a spoon himself - that’s how big our boy is!"
Great help to parents in the above conversations will be provided by special illustrated books, manuals, cards, videos. The main thing is to choose them in accordance with the age of the child.
Regardless of the age of the child, do not forget to explain to him that sex is an adult matter, and a child can only appear in parents who love each other.Book to help parents
Cartoon: where do the children come from
On the Internet you can find a huge number of cartoons for children of different ages about where the children come from. Here are some of them:
Video: Where do the children come from?
Feel free to talk with your child on sensitive issues, trust him, and then he will trust you with his secrets more than once.